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A life of smiles

The tributes were opened by Brian's son Chris, who delivered the Eulogy for Brian. This is reproduced below::

Eulogy for Brian Morlin Lindsay

I lost my father when I was 9 years old – I lost my Dad two weeks ago.

Brian Lindsay was a man of two lives, and sadly, too many of us here knew him during only one of those lives. That fact will be the source of sadness, regret and even some guilt, but we are all richer for having known him in some way. He had his pre 1979 life and his life after he and my Mother married – I knew only this life, and it’s a few stories of these years that I’d like to share with you today.

Brian loved fishing, but he’d be the first to say that he was a terrible angler. Many is the day that I sat at the bank side with him, happily catching plenty of fish, with him not even getting a bite. Of course you could never hint that he may be doing anything wrong, but a few times I’d cast over his line and drag his hook and bait back to the bank only to find that he was using the biggest hook in the whole world with the smallest bait imaginable – he was going for the element of surprise, he would tell me - the fish would pick up the bait and find this great big hook and get a fright and hook itself. Most times of course we were catching fish smaller than the hook he was using.

I remember when Brian and I went away for a week’s fishing in Devon with an old friend of mine who is here today. He so much wanted to be the father figure for these two youngsters and keep us in control while we were away. He had this almost manic need to be up earlier in the morning than we were – he wanted to do this fatherly thing of “you youngsters can’t even get yourselves up in the morning”. We were staying in this lovely cottage in Devon, and Brad and I shared the room upstairs, and Briany Boy was in the room downstairs.

Every morning, we’d wake up extra early, and I mean really, really early, and one of us would stick a leg out of bed and simply stamp on the floor, and then we would hear Brian clattering downstairs making tea, getting breakfast things ready so that he could say he was the first one up again. We’d then roll over and go back to sleep for a couple of hours and when we finally got up, he’d be downstairs with his usual, “I’ve been up for hours already” routine. I told him about 10 years later what we were doing and thankfully, he saw the funny side of it.

That same holiday, Brad and I went off at lunch time to make some sandwiches for us all, but Briany carried on fishing. When we got back he was ever so excited because he’d caught this big beautiful fish. He was like a kid in a sweet shop, and just didn’t know what to do with himself. Of course, we didn’t believe him – the one that got away and all that kind of thing, but he calls over to this other angler further down the bank, “’Ere missus … tell these two Herberts that I did catch a big fish” and sure enough she did confirm it. Of course we ribbed him something rotten about having to pay her to say that. About 4 months later, he received a photo of it in the post from the same lady, and for about a month he was 10 feet tall because he’d caught a bigger fish than Brad and Chris, and he could prove it.

There are so many good stories from his more active days, and I could talk for hours, but I would like to tell you just one other story about Brian from his not so strong days.

When our Mom passed away in 2004, understandably, because of his stroke in 2001, Briany was very reliant on us for so much more than he had previously been. He was such a private and shy person, he hated the idea of being helped with things like bathing and dressing and the like. For a long time I would go round to his house in the evenings, and we’d have a bath, and this quickly became a highlight event for both of us.

He was very ticklish and hated having his feet tickled, and I swear before you all now, I never, ever did tickle his feet – I used to wash them with my fingernails.

It used to drive him crazy, and he’d lie in the bath with this huge grin on his face kicking his legs and shouting “Lynne, Lynne” because he knew she was always his protector from my tickling. Of course, I couldn’t leave it there, but would  then have to spray him in the face with the shower when washing his hair, and when he was dried and dressed ready for bed, I’d comb his hair in the most outrageous way possible and he’d tell me I made him look gay.

We were always close, but I think it was during this time that we became closest.

He was a fantastic man to know, and the part he played in my and my family’s life can never be measured. He was a gentle man and a real gentleman.

Today, we are many families here, but we are drawn together as one family in grief and sadness to say goodbye to someone who was very important to us all. Lots of you would not have seen Brian for a number of years, some would have seen him only at his most ill, and so to finish, I want to share some of my memories with you in this little film that I’ve made – I’ve called it A life of smiles – remember Brian like this, as your father, your grandfather, your brother, your uncle, your friend.

God bless you Briany Boy.

The reading from The Bible was taken from the Book of Matthew, Chapter 18, verses 1 to 5 and verse 10. This was read by Greg Clingham:

At that time the disciples came to Jesus and asked, "Who is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven?"

He called a little child and had him stand among them.

And he said: "I tell you the truth, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven.

Therefore, whoever humbles himself like this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven. And whoever welcomes a little child like this in my name welcomes me.

See that you do not look down on one of these little ones. For I tell you that their angels in heaven always see the face of my Father in heaven.


The following are messages of condolences and support from members of the family in South Africa, Germany and America:

Dearest Chris & Family
It is with great sadness that I received your e-mail about Brian's passing.    Please convey mine and my family's deepest sympathy to all.   Thank you so much for letting me know.   I may not be the best correspondent in the world but you and your family are often in my thoughts and prayers.
God bless you all
All my love
Aunty Hermie

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Hi Chris

Our deepest sympathy on the sad news of Brian.  My Mom said he has been frail for a long time and in a wheel chair for a few years.  I agree with you that he is in a better place now and our thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Belinda, Barry and Robin

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Dear Chris and family
We are very sad to hear about your loss. I have known Brian since I was about 14 and always thought he was a lovely person, him and your mum. They are now together at last and he is no longer suffering so that is a good thing. We are thinking of you and your family and send much love.
Lots of love

Tracey, Paul, Michelle, Alistair and Ashley

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Hi Chris

Its been a long time, and a sad way to reconnect. Please accept our condolences from myself and my two boys. Brian was a lovely guy from the little I got to know him. He certainly adored your Mom. I have no doubt him and your Mom are chatting up a storm now! Please say Hi to Karen as well for me!

Regards, your cousin


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Dear Chris, Greg and Karen

We were very sorry to hear about Uncle Brian.  Our sympathies go out to you all at this time, Uncle Brian will always be remembered with love and affection.  Although we live so far away there was and is not a day that goes by that we don’t give a thought to Aunty Aileen and Uncle Brian and all of you. 

I hope that you are all keeping well?

Please send our love to everyone there.  You are all in our prayers daily.

Warmest love

Andred, Alison, Deryn, Matthew and Kirsten

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Hi Chris

Well I have not had contact with you for years and years, but I wanted to share my thoughts with you all there and say I am sorry about your loss.  I Trust you are all well and please pass on my best to your families there.

Best wishes

Troy Goldie

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Hi Chris,

Thank you for letting me know. We were very fond of Brian and often thought of him. We felt that he was part of your extended family. Our deepest sympathy to you and your family.

Love to all



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